This may sound dim, but could you not simply setup a Linux/pc on the second network that simply pings once every couple of seconds and then displays the MAC address that currently holds the IP Address. Since you can use lanadmin to discover your MAC address, you would know which machine was active. In this way you could at least see, whether it was safe to bring up the other interface.
The other simpler solution would be to bring up this interface on a temporary address, ping to see if the other machine was using it, if not down it, switch addresses, and bring it up again. The whole operation should take less than 10 seconds.